When you look at Aliya Naim or Nadia, they don’t want you to see
objects of beauty, nor do they want you to see women constrained by
societal standards.
Instead, they say, they want to be judged by their intellect and
personalities. They say it’s the reason they don’t show too much more.
Both Muslim American women cover themselves from head to toe in
adherence to their faith’s promotion of modesty and humility. Like most
Muslim women who cover, they do so only in front of men who are not in
their immediate family.
Aliya, a 20-year-old student at the
University of Georgia, wears the hijab, or headscarf. She also wears
clothes that cover everything but her face and hands, attire that is
also referred to as hijab.
“You often see in many societies women being objectified because of
how they look or being disrespected,” she says. The hijab, she says,
helps “force people who may be otherwise unwilling to take the focus off
of our physical appearance.”
Nadia (who asked that her last name not be given) similarly covers
most of her body and goes a step further by covering her face—excluding
her eyes—with a piece of fabric known as the niqab.
The 25-year-old mother of two doesn’t believe it’s a practice that Islam mandates, but that it draws her closer to God.
“When you love someone, you want to be more pleasing to them,” she
says. “…You want to do anything you can and constantly talk to them and
know more about them, and that’s how I feel also with my creator.”
While the number of Muslim women in America who wear the hijab or
niqab has never been recorded, some suggest that there was an increase
in Muslim women covering after the attacks of Sept. 11, 2001, as many
wished to express their identities in the wake of anti-Muslim sentiment.
After the attacks, says Georgetown University Professor Yvonne Haddad, more Muslim women became spokespeople for their religion.
“The women have sort of become the banner of Islam,” said Haddad,
co-author of Muslim Women in America: The Challenge of Islamic Identity
Today. “The little scarf is saying, ‘I am Muslim, and I have a presence
here.’”
Aliya, whose Muslim parents taught her that covering was part of Islam, began wearing the hijab when she was 12. But she says it was her choice.
Aliya, whose Muslim parents taught her that covering was part of Islam, began wearing the hijab when she was 12. But she says it was her choice.
She says it protected her from focusing intensely on her weight and
appearance, as her friends did. At her small all-girls middle and high
schools, her peers didn’t give her much trouble about it.
It was also shortly after the attacks on 9/11 and she, too, felt a need to express her identity and combat Muslim stereotypes.
Nadia, on the other hand, did not cover for most of her life. She
said she first started wearing the hijab in college after studying Islam
more closely and growing closer to her faith.
She added the niqab to her wardrobe after about a year. She says the
decision came after a conversation with other Muslim women who covered.
“When I actually got to know them [the women], I understood that they
were intelligent people still and they were still full of life and had
their own character,” she said. “It didn’t take away from them. But what
it added to them, to me, was this increased love for the creator.”
She says that, contrary to the common misconception of Muslim women
being forced to cover, her husband, who’d converted to Islam, had
nothing to do with her decision. In fact, it came as a surprise to him,
though he supported the move.
Bans and backlash
Last month, France’s lower house of parliament passed a ban on
wearing any veils that cover the face, including the niqab and burqa—a
similar covering that additionally conceals the eyes with a mesh
panel—in public.
A short time later, Syria’s minister of higher education issued a ruling outlawing the niqab in universities across the Muslim-majority country.
A short time later, Syria’s minister of higher education issued a ruling outlawing the niqab in universities across the Muslim-majority country.
There have also been bans on the hijab over the years.
Turkey first banned the headscarf in universities and public
buildings in the 1980’s, however the law was not strictly enforced until
1997.
In 2004, France banned religious symbols, including the wearing of the hijab, in public primary and secondary schools.
Although the United States is not expected to follow suit, Nadia
feels she has already begun to experience the effects of anti-covering
sentiment spreading in her home of Lilburn, Georgia.
She says she has been denied entry into grocery stores and has been
verbally harassed by strangers. Once, when she was at a gas station, she
says a man a man pulled off of the road, swerved his truck in front of
her pump, and took a close-up picture.
She watched him speed back out of the station and saw a large sign on
the side of his vehicle advertising a website called
trickledownterrorism.com. “I was so disturbed and I cried, and I
couldn’t understand it. I just felt like, why would he do this?” Nadia
said.
She often encounters people who tell her that her way of dress is
something that Americans don’t do, that she should leave her foreign
beliefs behind. As an African-American born and raised in the United
States, such statements are often difficult to hear.
“I’ve already told someone in a store, ‘I’m from the nation’s
capital, lady. I’m sorry to put it that way but please stop telling me
we don’t do that here because I’m from here, and I am here. My family’s
raised here, I live here...You might not do it here, but I do it here.’”
While Aliya still experiences frequent stares and often feels
misunderstood by the general public, she says that wearing the hijab has
also brought positive experiences, including opportunities to explain
her religion and answer humorous questions.
“I think the one that always makes me laugh is, ‘Do you shower in
that?’ And I always say to that, well, do you shower in your clothes?
There’s your answer.”
Once, a young boy at a national park approached her and told her that
she looked like the character Padme from Star Wars. She still laughs
about that one.
Misconceptions
Aliya and Nadia feel that the biggest hardship they face is others’ assumptions about their beliefs.
Both say that the most common misconception about Muslim women is
that they are oppressed, and that their religion views them as inferior
to men.
For instance, French President Nicolas Sarkozy referred to the burqa as “a sign of subservience… a sign of lowering,” earlier this year.
For instance, French President Nicolas Sarkozy referred to the burqa as “a sign of subservience… a sign of lowering,” earlier this year.
Nadia disagrees.
“I’ve never seen anybody interview a Muslim woman and ask her if
she’s oppressed. Or if she feels oppressed for wearing what she wears,
or if she’s oppressed in her home,” said Nadia.
Aliya says that if women are oppressed, it is the fault of people and culture, not Islam.
“There’s a saying by the Prophet Mohammed, peace be upon him, that
women are the equal halves of men. And from what I’ve read and studied
about Islam, that’s very much how Islam views women,” she added.
Aliya says that she has never met an American Muslim woman who was forced to wear the hijab or niqab.
“I actually know more people who wear it against their parents’
wishes than unwillingly in compliance with their wishes,” she said.
To be sure, there are countries that require women to cover. Iranian
law says women have to wear a hijab in public, while Saudi Arabia
requires Muslim women to wear the hijab.
Moving forward
Despite some hurtful experiences in public, Nadia is content with her
decision to wear niqab and says she feels a distinct difference in how
men respect her now as opposed to her earlier days of low-cut shirts and
formfitting pants.
Aliya also feels a joy in wearing the hijab, she says.
“And I think that definitely what’s in the heart is most important,”
she said. “And your outward appearance should be a manifestation of
that, not something to disguise what you really think or feel or
believe.”
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